Micro Cheating Is The New Thing That Will Keep You Up
You’re probably familiar with what cheating is. Maybe you know someone who has cheated on their parter, or maybe you yourself have cheated on someone. Either way, it’s a thing that happens and can suck quite a bit.
Now, because people don’t have enough to freak out about in a relationship, there is a new thing that will keep your mind racing and that’s micro-cheating.
You might be scratching your head right now trying to figure out what micro-cheating is so let me help you out.
Micro-cheating basically boils down to a series of trivial behaviours that suggest someone is either emotionally or physically involved with someone outside their relationship. According to a psychologist who spoke with the Daily Mail, these behaviours can include things such as listing a “friend” under a code name in your phone so your partner does not become suspicious.
Some further things that count as micro-cheating can be found in this list of 33 Ways Your Boyfriend Is Micro-Cheating (And Totally Getting Away With It). Some of the ways include “obsessively checking another girl’s social media feeds” or “purposely neglecting to mention his significant other in conversation.”
Meanwhile, some of the ways sound rather absurd such as, “Tagging another girl in an Instagram that reminds him of her or references a seemingly innocuous inside joke between them,” and “Going out of his way to do something nice for someone who’s not his girlfriend, like hook her up with tickets to a concert or send a cute quote just because,” which sound like things someone would just do for a friend they care about either way.
Dating expert Melanie Schilling told HuffPost Australia that micro-cheating can cause negative and unstable emotions in a relationship and cause unsustainable patterns. She also says that if you allow it your’re saying, “It’s OK to flirt with him/her, I’m happy to take second place and I don’t really matter,” and that “Over time, this can erode your self-esteem and set you up to be a ‘victim’ in your relationship.”
Of course you could just ignore this entire article and build a relationship based on mutual trust, admiration and respect and continue to be your friendly self to people you care about outside of your relationship without being accused of micro-cheating.